HOW CAN I HELP

What we might explore together in Individual therapy:

• Normalise open, shame-free conversations about sex (including masturbation, if that's part of your journey)
• Unpack sexual scripts and beliefs that may be shaping your attitudes, experiences, or myths around sex/relationships
• Explore the kind of intimacy and connection you genuinely want
• Reflect on your gender identity or sexual orientation, especially if you're feeling uncertain or stuck 

• Talk about what pleasure means for you, including your personal turn ons (Yums)and turn-offs (Yucks)
• Build  self-love, and develop a deeper sense of confidence, and comfort in your body
• Work through anything else that aligns with your personal therapy goals

What the journey can look like:

• Practice simple breathing techniques to help manage anxiety and stay present
• Try practical tools you can use at home, like the Stop/Start Technique, Dilators or Kegels
• Build a better understanding of your reproductive anatomy and how your body works
• Learn how arousal and desire actually function (spoiler: it's not always spontaneous)

• Shift unhelpful thinking patterns and emotional spirals 
• Develop strategies for emotional regulation and managing stress
• Understand how anxiety can affect things like erectile function and why Viagra alone isn't always the answer

What we might explore together in couple therapy:

• Talk openly and honestly about what you're feeling
• Communicate more clearly, without blame or judgement
• Understand what's not working and why it hurts
• Rebuild trust and emotional closeness
• Explore the kind of partnered sex you truly want what might be getting in the way

• Navigate non-traditional relationships (like open relationships or poly), if that's part of your journey
• Talk openly about sex toys, lube, kink/BDSM,  porn, if these are areas you're curious to understand more about 
• Work through anything else that aligns with your therapy goals

What the journey can look like:

• Learn practical communication techniques  
• Discover your love languages, and how they show up in your relationship
• Explore whether you're more of a "sexy brain" or "sexy body" type (it matters!)

• Use the Wheel of Consent to better understand your boundaries, especially if you're someone who struggles to say no (i.e., not to disappoint your partner) 
• Look at tools like lube and sex toys can support more satisfying experiences
• Try Sensate Focus practices, a gentle way to rebuild physical connection without (performance) pressure